Safety
Dating Safety on Forget Dinner: You Stay in Control
The protections built into the site, and the habits that keep a first meeting simple.
Privacy and control
You decide what’s seen
Nobody needs your real name to flirt with you, and nobody gets it.
Safe usernames
Your real name and email are never shown. Members see the username you choose.
Location privacy
Other members see your nearest town or city. Your address and live location stay private.
Instant blocking
Block anyone in a tap, and they can no longer contact you or see your profile.
Easy reporting
Report a member or a piece of content from inside the site, and the team takes it from there.
Identity
Show you’re genuine, without handing over your life
All four checks are optional, and none asks for more than it needs.
- ID verification
- A government ID check at no charge. A badge on your profile tells matches you are a genuine person.
- Video verification
- A short live check with a moderator, with no documents to upload.
- Admin validation
- Our team reviews your profile and adds a validation badge, without asking for sensitive documents.
- Age assurance
- The site estimates age automatically and applies further checks where the law requires them.
The community
Good behaviour is easy to spot
A reputation score
Every member has one, built from behaviour and feedback, so you can judge who is trustworthy before you reply.
One-click feedback
Upvote or downvote an interaction in a tap, which flags a bad experience early.
Off-site alerts
A warning appears when someone tries to move the chat to an app such as WhatsApp, a common scam move.
Behind the scenes
People and software keep watch
- Behaviour monitoring. Software looks for unusual or suspicious activity, to catch scammers and bots early.
- Screening on upload. Images, videos and text are screened with AI and human review.
- Blurred images. Sensitive images arrive blurred with a warning, so you choose whether to look.
- Swift takedown. Requests to remove unauthorised or harmful content get a rapid response.
- Human support. A real team is there around the clock, and complaints about content are reviewed under a published policy.
- Secure hosting. The site runs on PCI-compliant cloud infrastructure with SSL encryption, and it takes part in the Online Dating and Discovery Association’s safety work.
Worth knowing
A bigger pool, shared with partner sites
Forget Dinner belongs to a network of partner sites under one company. That means your profile and what you post can be seen and searched by users who reach the same service through those other sites, and the members you meet may have joined through one of them.
The terms are also clear that criminal background checks are not run, nothing members tell the company is verified, and profiles and messages may not be genuine. So treat every new contact as a stranger until you’ve met them.
The legit guide sets out the other points the terms make.
Before you go
Meeting someone, step by step
Chat on the site first
Stay in the platform’s messages until you are sure. A contact who rushes you to another app has told you something.
Check them out
Ask for the ID badge, look at how they write and compare what they say across conversations. Our dating scams guide lists the red flags, and our guide to catfishing explains how to check a profile.
Pick somewhere public
Choose a busy place you know, in daylight if you can. A short drink beats a long evening for a first meeting, and date ideas help you choose.
Tell a friend
Say who you are meeting, where and when, and check in afterwards. Make your own way there and back.
Look after yourself
If you decide to take things further, sexual health checks in the UK explains where to get tested and when.
Never send money. Members are not allowed to ask for it, and no genuine match needs yours. Block and report anyone who does.
Straight answers on staying safe
Is Forget Dinner safe?
It has the protections of a well-run dating site: safe usernames, location privacy, optional ID and video checks, blocking, reporting and human support. No dating site can promise every profile is genuine, so keep early chat on the platform and meet in public.
Can other members see where I live?
No. Members see your nearest town or city, never your address or your live location. You choose what else goes on your profile, and you can block anyone who makes you uncomfortable.
Do I have to verify my identity?
No. ID verification, video verification and admin validation are all optional. They give you a badge that helps other members trust your profile, and the ID check costs nothing.
What if someone makes me uncomfortable?
Block them and report them from their profile or the message. Blocked members cannot contact you or see your profile, and the team reviews reports. Support is available around the clock if you need to talk it through.
More on staying safe
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